What did you want to be when you grew up?
What did you love
to do as a child? What did you dream of doing as an adult? Are you doing it?
Why or why not?
At a very young age, our parents taught us how to interact
with ourselves and the world; essentially, how to “be.” This is why, unless we had
very awake and aware parents and/or do inner work on ourselves, we wind up
living our parents’ lives. They projected their beliefs and experiences on to
us, and often subconsciously, we absorbed those beliefs and used them to form the
basis of our lives. Now, in order be ourselves in the world, we have to peel
away our parents’ issues so our truth can shine through and we can live
authentically as ourselves.
Here are examples of how we could be living our parents’
Job/career: choosing a job that parents approve of or is the
same/similar to theirs, not knowing what we want to do when we grow up, feeling
that our dream job isn’t possible for us
Marriage/family: choosing a spouse/partner who is similar to
our mother or father, replicating our parents’ relationship dynamics, choosing
to have or not have children based on the way our parents raised us, raising
our children the way our parents raised us
Finances: similar beliefs as parents around money, such as
belief in not having enough, arguments around money, using money to justify
doing or not doing something, fear, anger, or unworthiness around money,
feeling dissociated from money
Friendships: attracting friends who are similar to our
Health: manifesting health issues based on parts of our
parental relationship that need to heal, belief in family health history,
genetics, and inherited dis-eases
Relationship with ourselves: self-talk that is similar to
what our parents say to themselves or what they said to us as children
When we are free of our parents’ view of reality, we are
able to create the lives we dream of for ourselves. In truth, there is nothing stopping
us, although issues and beliefs arising from early childhood experiences with parents
may make it seem so. Learn more about creating a healthy relationship with your
parents. Let’s work together to clear your parental issues so you are free to
be YOU in the world and live your dreams.